Penelitian ini memberikan gambaran mengenai fenomena commuter marriage yang dialami oleh pasangan suami-istri yang bekerja dan pelaku migrasi tersebut berasal dari pihak istri. Penelitian menggunakan pendekatan kualitiatif dengan teknik pengumpulan data wawancara mendalam, observasi, dan data sekunder. Adapun tahapan yang dilalui oleh kedua pasangan ini, yaitu tahap pengambilan keputusan, tahap awal atau transisi hingga tahap menetap. Agar commuter marriage dapat berjalan dengan baik diperlukan adanya dukungan sosial, baik dari keluarga orientasi, teman kerja hingga Pembantu Rumah Tangga. Mengacu pada tipologi relasi suamiistri menurut Scanzoni & Scanzoni, relasi pada pasangan commuter marriage paling mendekati dengan pola relasi senior-junior partner. Selain itu, penelitian ini menganggap bahwa emotional security atau keamanan emosional berpengaruh terhadap kelanggengan pola relasi yang ada.

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The purpose of this research is to describe about phenomenon of commuter marriage that experienced by spouse who worked and wife become the person who doing the migration. This research using qualitative approach through collecting data; indepth interview, observation, and secondary data. There are some stages that will be faced by the spouses like decision making process, early stage or transition, and the settle stage. In order to make commuter marriage goes well, social supports, as from family, colleagues, even housemaid are necessary. According to the typology of husbandwife relation from Scanzoni & Scanzoni, the closest is senior-junior partner relation pattern. Moreover, this research assume that emotional security take effect to the continuity of the exsisting relation pattern.